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So If your an expecting parent your probably day dreaming about what being a parent is going to look like and how much your going to love this new precious baby. Well here is what I wish I knew about the newborn stage and what I think you should know!
1) Baby’s eat ALL of the time! I’m not even kidding, I wish I was. My baby would eat every 1-2 hours sometimes 3 if he was sleepy. It was exhausting as you can imagine you’ve just gave birth and your expecting some sort of rest, that does not always happen🙃 i would feed my baby and by the time he was finished and I had changed him and put him back down it was time for him to eat AGAIN. Hang in with those first few weeks mama, you can do it!
TIP; I know this is said a lot of the time but sleep when your baby sleeps! Forget the housework, it can wait you need to be okay so your baby can be okay!
2) Baby’s do just cry I remember sitting on the side of my bed at 3am rocking my screaming baby wondering what in the hell i was doing wrong, I had done everything I could and he still wasn’t happy. I soon learned that babies can just cry. You have to understand that this tiny little human has been in your womb for 9 months safe and sound and now they are in this loud strange world. They have never felt hunger, thirst, cold or any feelings as extreme as what they feel when they are outside your womb! So hold your baby mama, cuddle them and talk to them. I know your exhausted but these are the late nights you will never get back.
Tip; Swaddles and white noise mimics the womb, they are tight in a swaddle just like they are in your womb so that is so comforting to them, the white noise blocks out any background noise and soothes them quickly! Pacifiers/dummy’s also soothes babies as they suck to calm them self’s down!
3) You may not feel that overwhelming love for weeks or even months. When my baby was born I was expecting to fall deeply in love with him, but I didn’t. I was angry because I had a terrible labour with forceps and an episiotomy. I was angry for a few weeks. I thought there was something wrong with me. Turns out it’s completely NORMAL! Your hormones are everywhere. I felt the love and bond when my baby gave me his first ever smile and I sat and cried because I loved this little human so so much!
Tip; breastfeeding is a great way to bond with your baby! Having your baby close is also a great way! If you don’t feel like you’ve bonded with your baby for a couple months, I would definitely go to your GP or speak to your health visitor to rule out post natal depression (which is also normal) don’t worry mama! Your doing a great job!
4) Don’t buy half of the store on baby clothes. Believe me when I say your baby will not wear most of them! I bought so many clothes and now they are in black bags in my loft with tags still on them! I started to realise baby’s grow soo quickly. My baby jumped the 3-6 and went straight to 6-9! yes he is a fatty👶🏼 also the nice outfits you buy will most likely get covered in spit up, urine and poo explosions, yep they don’t stay clean very long.
Tip; buy baby onesies! No fuss and easy to clean! I’m not saying don’t buy nice outfits but I would definitely save them for later on! You really don’t want to get a poo explosion on a baby too-too or fluffy pink dress or dungarees.
5) Keep unwanted guests at bay. After having my baby I almost forgot that I was my baby’s mother and what I said goes. There was people coming in and out my house while I was still in a massive daze from birth and baring in mind I still couldn’t walk from a 4th degree cut. I honestly advice you to only have people over who are going to help you with baby and not people who are there to get a cuddle and leave. I have learned that everyone wants to hold and cuddle a cute baby but, nobody wants to deal with one. Also your baby doesn’t want to be held by anyone but mom! They lived inside you for 9 months! Don’t feel guilty or pressured. Chill with your baby and recover. After all, you are both getting to know each other one step at a time.
Tip; tell family and friends before your labour that you want only people who are going to help! If anyone objects, simply remind them that it’s your baby and to respect your wishes. (I also found locking doors was a good idea for me, abit extreme but it worked)